I'm scared for my boyfriend

I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend of 5 months has leukaemia. This is his second time of having it, he's 17. He just told me now that he may have liver failure. He's been in hospital for two weeks and has just been transferred to a new one now. He hasn't told me if he definitely has liver failure or not but he's no longer on his phone because I assume he's with his family at the moment.

 

I'm so scared and I love him so much. I don't know how I would cope with his death. I've been crying for about an hour straight and he may not even have liver failure. If he does he won't  get better and will die a painful death. The only real cure is a liver transplant which is unlikely to happen for a cancer patient whose cancer will likely spread to the new liver as well. I'm so scared and I don't want him to leave. 

 

I guess im just here to get this off my chest and see what people have to say

  • Hi CaitlinM,

    Thank you for your posting.

    I am so sorry to hear that your boyfriend’s leukaemia has come back.  This must be very difficult news to get your head around.

    He says that he might have liver failure and you are very worried what this could mean for him.  Because of the uncertainty it can be all too easy to over think the situation.  It is not certain that he has liver failure and even if he does because there are different levels of severity it may not be as bad as you think it is.  Also I feel I should say that it is not necessarily the case that leukaemia spreads to the liver but it could be that some of the treatment he had affected the function of the liver.

    Hopefully once the situation is clearer your boyfriend will let you know what is happening.  It can be really difficult to understand what is really going on when you are not with the person and it can be easy to imagine the worse when this is not necessarily the case.

    In the most serious cases of liver failure it may be possible to have a liver transplant but I am not sure about this in your boyfriend’s situation.  Also I do want to let you know that a failing liver does not usually cause pain.

    I hope this has helped and that you get to know more about what is happening soon.

    Take care

    Caroline.

  • Thank you so much for your reply. I sincerely appreciate it. This has made me feel a lot better and I am waiting to here news from him still.

    As far as I know his leukaemia is quite bad and he has swelling all over, in his kidneys especially. If he was to have liver failure are you able to tell me an estimate on how long he would have left to live? I understand if you're unable to as I know every personal case is different. 

    Thank you for you kindness and information,

    Caitlin