Welcome to Cancer Chat Sophie, 

I'm really sorry to hear that your boyfriend has stopped communicating with you since he revealed he has cancer. I can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you but stay strong and just let him know you're there for him if and when he needs you. It could just be that he needs some time to come to terms with what is happening and could be trying to protect you.

I have found another member [@CaitlinM]‍ who is also new to the forum and in a similar position to yourself that will understand what you're going through and now that I've tagged them in this post I'm sure they will reply soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you. 

All the best, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hey Sophie,

When my boyfriend told me he had cancer I was shocked and supported him. I guess our cases are different in the sense that he accepted my support but your boyfriend is distancing himself from you and not accepting yours. All I can say is that you should tell him you'll support him. Assure him that you're there for the long run and that cancer isn't going to be the thing to get in the way of you two. I hope when he reads it he'll message you back.

Hopefully he will come around and start texting you again. Boys will be boys. Cancer or not, no boy wants to look weak in front of their girlfriend. For weeks my boyfriend didn't tell me how bad he was feeling until he got admitted into hospital. Hes been there for two weeks now and the chances of him passing away are very high. I just wish he had told me. So encourage your boyfriend to tell you things, remind him how strong you think he is, remind him that you like/love him, assure him you're not leaving, explain to him that you'll always do you're best to be understanding. That is all you can do. Once you've done that, all you can do is give him space and wait. 

There are lots of people in similar situations to you who understand. Just know you're not the only one. 

We love you and best of luck,

Caitlin