Feeling helpless

mum was diagnosed last December with ovarian stage 3 and then bowel cancer  after a operation to try and do a stoma but was an open and shut case .. and 12 mths  of chemotherapy.. ..then nothing since the end of sept  only pain management.. now mum was admitted to Christie's this week , not eaten bowels not working and feeling sick and being sick ... anyway after our review mum as had drains in followed with chest X-rays ct scan ... and our consultant says we could manager her at home .. or give some treatment again to help with the symptoms... mum wants to try again with some treatment .. I just want her to be comfortable but like they say they don't know how she will respond to this treatment as it's a lot more stronger then she as had before ... bearing in mind mum chemo didn't give her that much side effects in the last 12 mths .. now I feel as this disease got hold of mum ...I try asking the nurses even the special nurses and she seems to say they are making her comfortable... I don't know what I really need to know ... but feeling  scared of what is happening right now ... after trying to talk to my mum she as gone confiding in me to pushing me away saying I always want know everything ... and that she as never felt this bad .. does anyone else feel like I do or is this just normal .. feeling x

  • Hi Bev,

    So sorry to read about the predicament you're in.

    From your Mum's point of view (and I've been in your Mum's position) just making her comfortable probably feels like just giving up and accepting the inevitable outcome. However slim a chance that further treatment might slow things down and give her more months or years with her family, she may think that any hope is better than no hope.

    She may be right - sometimes people given little chance do surprise us all.

    Only your Mum can decide what is best for her, which is hard on everyone else as I know from experience with my own Mum.

    I hope this helps
    Dave