Dad has terminal liver cancer.

For several weeks now dad has been feeling ill. A doctor finally sent him for an ultrasound scan a couple of weekends ago where they found sclerosis of the liver, caused by diabetes and not alcohol and a shadow. He went into hospital last Tuesday where he had a CT scan and on Friday they confirmed a diagnosis of liver cancer. Today they have called him to tell him that it is terminal as there is no treatment that they can offer although they will treat the symptoms.

I feel completely numb and have no interest in anything at all. I'm struggling to eat and to motivate myself at the moment. Everyone keeps telling me that these are completely normal feelings given the circumstances, but it doesn't help. I have avoided seeing him this week probably because I'm trying to avoid facing the truth. They haven't given us any timescales, but I am starting to worry that the way that I'm feeling will prevent me from being able to make the most of however much time we have left. I guess what I'm really looking for is other peoples experiences of this as a way of reassuring myself that the way that I'm feeling really is normal.

  • Hi so sorry to read about dad it's shock when you told the dreading news that it's terminal and there nothing . I know too well what you going through mix emotion disbelieve etc . My mother was first told she had bowel cancer two year ago we was totally shocked because the doctor was treating her for cramps and give her tablets . Anyway she had op removed two turmours and she had to have chemo she was so ill with chemo she was also in hospital for month . July this year she went for scan and they found mass they wasn't sure if it was on her ovary or bowel turned out be on her bowel . In octoctober she had phone call from cancer doctor my mother thought she was going to talk about what treatment she was haven . Only to be told that it was inoperable and there nothing they can do my mother phoned me to tell me the dreading news I was in shock I put the phone down I was screaming I phoned my partner he was in shock he came home from work we went straight up my mothers . We all just sat there crying none of us could believe what was said my mother was saying she don't want to die . It's so hard my mother doesn't want to know how long she got its night mere . That all we can do is be there and spend much time we got left we trying to keep things as normal as possible it's so hard I try to put brave face on when I see her but inside I'm screaming my heart broken . Try and go and see you dad he needs you more now that ever . It's going to be hard for you all I should know I going through the same any time you need chat I'm here . Sorry for rambling take care x