Hi,

My Dad has terminal cancer, its aggressive and careering out of control. I've all these things I want to tell him, so he dies knowing how amazing he's been. I was hoping I'd have time to figure out how to have that conversation and not be a sobbing wreck, but that luxury is not one I have. My family isn't very demonstrative and we tend to avoid overt displays of emotion or showing each other how we feel. Don't get me wrong though, we're not cold, we just have that British repressed thing going on. I'd toyed with the idea of telling him everything I felt in an email, but I don't want him to think this is me saying goodbye and that I've written him off, thought it really is part of me saying goodbye. I'm not sure email is the right medium, or if there is a right medium for this sort of thing,  but I can't figure out how I can do this face to face. I've read the Death and Dying book so I know it'll be helpful for both of us if I can figure out how to do this, I just don't know how to approach this for the best.

Has anyone else wrestled with this? What did you do?