I'm sorry to read about you dad you have come to right place there loads people on here that been in silmer situation . There also loads information on here my situation my mother terminally ill we found out month ago my mother been fighting bowel cancer for two years we don't know how long she got . I know exactly how you feeling I didn't stop crying when I found out I was all over place I felt helpless because there nothing I could do . Until I came on this site and starting chatting to people who was in silmer situation I started to get bit stronger I still cry but not so much the worst part for me is that I'm going to loss my mother and there nothing I can do about it . All what you feeling at the moment is normal it the shock as well you will have you good and bad days like me one day I'm fine then it hits you back that it's really happen but I think you learn to deal with it . I hope it wouldn't be to long until you see you dad take care keep in touch . 

hi ss22,     my dad has terminal cancer too,     im sure you like me, as i was,   are in the crying stage, thats normal, i cried so hard i kept makeing myself sick as the feeling in my stomach i just could not handle, i had a few mornings when i pulled the covers over my head and wanted time to just freeze,  but eventually the realisation moment passes and you dust yourself down and become the most supportive positive person you can be..why ? because you realise dad needs you, and needs to see you copeing, im sure you will then be like me frantically searching for hours on the internet for information and for hope to help your dad, and that was the point i found this site too, and all the supportive people on here,it will help you. i know you can handle this,  dont get me wrong its hard, and sometimes in private i have a big wobble, and cry myself to sleep, but i can tell you want to help your dad, and just being there will be a big thing,  my advice is do all you can do,  then if and when it may all be sadly over, you can say to yourself... i did all i could, and made a difference,  it wont make the pain go away, but it will help you cope, i think, thats what im doing at the moment, doing family meals and get togethers with dad, and trying to help him cope, with the worst news a person can get...post when ever you need..i completely understand....cococat

Thank you for your message it helps to read this and not feel so alone. I have no one at work to really talk to at the moment thank u. 

Thank u Gemini

So sorry hear about your mum.

I managed to speak to my dad and hold him which has defantly helped and I am truly greatful for.

Now I guess we must fight through these waves of pain and be there for then each.

Keep wanting to write that it's nice that someone understands what it's like, but I can't help feel that is a  terriblel thing to say as I don't want someone to know it's pain.