Caring for a lovely lady who is like a mum to me

am nursing my lovely partners mum as he is finding it difficult to deal with what is happening. She has advanced gastric cancer which has metastasized to he lung, liver and abdomen. I am taking time off work as a nurse to care for her and to try to support my lovely man through all of this. I am finding it very difficult at times as both of my parents died of cancer as did my husband in 2005.
My Partner (I can't really day boyfriend as he is 52 & I am 50) was accepting my support until 2 days ago, he was working more hours then but now says he needs me to give him space. I love his mum very much & I need his support too, I know I am a strong woman and a nurse also it is breaking both of our hearts watching his mum go through this terrible time and now he has shut me out completely.
I speak to the doctors. palliative care nurses and district nurses so that they know exactly what he condition is and if any changes to medication are needed I'm the one that deals with that too as well as taking care of all of her hygiene needs, attempting to encourage her to eat and sleeping in her room so that I can keep an eye on her over night.
I feel so lost and alone now as I don't have my soul mate to talk to and am unsure of how long his mum will be with us.

  • Hi heartbrokennurse,

    I'm sorry to hear about your partner's mum and the effect her diagnosis and situation is having on your relationship with your partner. I can't imagine how tough this is for you right now but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. Our community are always here if you need someone to talk to and I'm sure our members will be along soon to offer their support and advice having been in similar situations themselves with their partners and loved ones.

    Best wishes to all of you, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator