Hi, my father is in the latter stages of oesophageal cancer and I am at a loss as to how to best help him. I have taken an extended holiday from work have moved 350 miles to care for him as any child would , I am happy to provide all his care but am out of my depth about what to speak with him about. I don't mean general day to day chat but I want to help him talk about what is important to him- I want to help relieve the pain, give him peace but don't know how to. I want to help him fulfill what he wants to do before he dies but don't know how to raise the discussion . We do have a weekly visit from the hospice and twice weekly visit from nurses but no other careers come in as I don't want him to have hurried visits and he can not cope with lots of different peopl. Please, any advice would be most appreciated.