I think you can only do what feels right with your husband but make sure that you talk to simeone about how you're feeling. It's too easy to bottle everything up, feeling that you have be strong in front of everyone. Every day is precious, treasure every minute. It's amazing how strong people can be when their world is crumbling around them. I'm sure whatever you say will be right, although probably not feel it at the time. You're not alone. My thoughts are with you.