Mum has terminal cancer

my mum was diagnosed with terminal sarcoma cancer 2 weeks ago. For 6 months the doctors have said it was IBS but it was found in her uterus and it has spread to her bowels, kidney and bladder. The tumour had blocked her bowel for 4 months and has subsequently lead her to be incredibly constipated. Although it's finally been resolved, she is still suffering from the anxiety of not being able to go to the toilet and is constantly up and down to the toilet all day and all night. It's all she can think about. She's totally changed and isn't my mum anymore. 

Im only 20 and my sister is only 24, and it's always been just us three. I'm scared for So many reasons. The doctor hasn't told us what stage she is at, should we know that by now? I'm also worried about our house and what will happen to it when Shes gone. 

She also has only just returned home but we are struggling as she is in pain and can't face giving herself her medicine or anything. This is hard as my sister is holding down a full time job and I am at university so getting up constantly in the night is too much for both of us. I feel lost and confused and worried. 

  • You need to get in touch with your mums GP and also get Macmillan nurses involved. All three of you need some support and help NOW. I've found that even though your mum has this terrible illness, you have to ask for the help you need. The help is there, but you do need to request things. They might be able to organise some respite care until your mum is over her toilet panics enabling you to get some sleep and be ready for when she returns home. It's a horrible time for all of you, but please make sure you get all the help you can. Be a nuisance if you have to, claim every allowance and benefit you possibly can, and keep posting to let us know how you are getting on.