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Young partner with terminal pancreatic cancer & young baby

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Hi all, I'm new to the site and this is my first post.

My partner was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at 41 last October, when I was 30 weeks pregnant with our miracle baby. He had failed surgery at the end of last year and has undergone numerous rounds of chemotherapy & radiotherapy. But yesterday we got the news that it's spread to his liver - next step is palliative chemo to keep him alive. Our little boy is just 9 months old.

i literally don't know how to cope. Our lives are ruined. And however hard it is for me it's 10 times harder for him.

im also trying to run a business and home on my own (my partner lives with a friend as we separated in May due to all the stress. Now back together.)

how do I continue to live??? So so hard???

 

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    Hi,

    This is such a cruel and heartbreaking disease, All any of us can do is to take it one day at a time and hope for the best and make as many happy memories as we can.

    You know you have to carry on for the sake of your son, as well as for yourself and .your partner who is probably as scared about the future as you are. Things won't be easy but somehow you will get through this.

    Best wishes
    Dave
     

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    Hi I am so sorry for what your family are going through. August this year my brother turned up at our Grandads funeral very jaundiced and he has been diagnosed with adenocarcinoma of the bile duct. He is 48 with 4 children, youngest having just started secondary school. He is waiting appt with specialist to see if surgery an option. I am a nurse with oncology experience and never thought this would happen to my family. I am totally devasted, off work with stress and terrified about the whole thing. I know what pain you feel. I have a good GP and currently attending counselling which doesn"t take the pain away but hopefully prepare me to be strong and support my family. Please seek help so that you are able to cope with this, your little one needs you and so does your partner. Take care of you Jayne

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