My husband was first diagnosed with cancer in his right kidney June 2015. Had a nephrectomy July 2015 and scans have been clear  until the August one. Saw the urologist in September who said his cancer has spread to his stomach and metastacised and is also in the tissue behind the original site so now stage 4. Referred to oncologist who has put him on pazopanib ( votrient) once a day.  He is 10 days in and feeling sick, full up, at times shivery and has a UTI which is being treated by antibiotics. Saw the GP yesterday who says he may need intravenous antibiotics to clear up the UTI.

My husband has also been living with MS for 38 years and is wheelchair bound. He is very strong willed and forces himself to eat; now eating to live not for pleasure. We are expecting our first grandchild in February and he is determined to see it. This is almost like history repeating itself as my dad fought bladder cancer and his final outing was on our son's Christening. He lived to see him reach 5 months old.

I have to keep well and so do several classes at the local YMCA. Positivity helps and our supportive GP who was round yesterday within an hour of calling to ask for advise about his sickness, I only expected a telephone call. If anyone has any good recipes that help with food please pass them on. Trying a chicken broth today as spicy food which he used to love is out of the question.