Hi am the eldest of three daughters.  Our mother was diagnosed with cancer in July. Then two weeks later advised it was terminal.  At this present time No treatment of any kind.   Still undergoing various biopsies in an effort to determine?? What am asking myself now.....She has under gone two procedures trying to get results from pancreas samples, apparently very surprisly they could not get the information required.  The cancer was also found in the lung, tiny and thought to be separate cancer.  Biopsy done in lung and successful, well , by successful they where able to confirm it was cancer.  The team are not concerned about the lung as it is the lessor cancer. It is also now in the liver and last week a biopsy was done.  Tomorrow we get the results.

Throughout all this mum continues to be well, carrying on as "normal" except a death sentence is hanging over her head, our dads head , all our heads . 

it is horrendous, to the outside world, all appears  normal  , but our life will never be normal again......and worst of all one day she will no longer be with us.

people say make every day a memory, people say live everyday with mum as its her last. I say it's not a Hollywood movie and we are certainly not doing this.......we constantly try....

But try as we may mum just wants to carry on doing her daily day, normal stuff, going to Aldi, going to Asda, pottering about at home.......

we are desperate to spend time with mum but we are also desperate not to put her under pressure or have her stressed, worried or anxious in any way.......

Stugglng