Hello, 

I'm ever so sorry to hear about your dad and what you as a family are going through. 

It's hard when your world literally turns upside down and nothing is what it once was. In situations like this it's hard to know what to say or even how to help others. Sometimes it's just a comfort knowing we aren't alone. 

I'm 27, my dad's just turned 65 two weeks ago! April 2015 he was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. Palliative chemotherapy was offered. He's done amazingly well since, overcoming a major bowel operation July last year where he almost died and then suffered a stroke in Feb this year! He's currently back on chemo and lost his hair a month ago. It was a major shock however the reality of it really sunk in because before he still looked like my dad, even after a 5 stone weight loss but this time it is like looking at a cancer patient. Although my dad's doing well we know what will happen in the end. These past 17 months has taught me that it's ok to be scared, it's ok to cry and it's also ok not to. I think in times like this you find ways of coping, knowing that your dad wouldn't want to see you in bits. For him to know that you'll all be OK once he's gone, to give him those last few smiles or laughter. The only possible way to be there for him is to support him, talk to him, listen to him, ask him if there's anything he wants or needs and just let him know how much you love him. There really isn't any more you can possibly do. I know deep down I can't do loads for my dad, I can't invent miracle cures etc but what I can do is just be there for him and love him. Make sure you and your mum have plenty of support to from anyone who welcomes you with it.