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I'm 15. My mum was recently diagnosed to having cancer. She went in for scans because she hurt her back and they found a cancerous lump attached to her lungs and heart. She recently came out of hospital after having it removed and they have sent it off for tests so determine where it has started. My best friendS mum who has helped me so much and has supported our family so much has started her chemo for her cancer. She has a much worse type of cancer than my mum and she might not survive. She is currently in hospital in Crictical condition. All this has happened in the most important year of my life in school (GCSEs) and I fear it is making me depressed and will effect my grades which will mean that I don't do what I want to do in life. I guess I'm writing this because I'm looking for people in the same boat or have been.  

  • Welcome to the forum Wghcarr.

    It's great that the cancerous lump that was attached to your mum's lungs and heart was able to be removed although I'm sorry to hear that your best friend's mum also has cancer and this has all happened at such an important time in your life.

    It's understandable you are worried about the impact this will have on you but you've come to a great place with lovely, supportive members who will understand what you are going through right now, especially [@chloe.2000]‍. You can find out more about her here. Now that I've tagged her in this post she'll hopefully be along soon to offer her support and share her experiences with you. Also, do make sure you speak to your school about what is going if you haven't done so already as they will be able to provide support and do all they can to make sure it does not affect your grades.

    There is also a website called riprap where you can speak to other teenagers who also have parents that have cancer which may help you at this time as well.

    Do come back to let us know the results of your mum's tests and how your best friend's mum is getting on with her chemo.

    Wishing you, your mum and your best friend's mum all the best, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    hi,

    Im so sorry to hear this sad news - my thoughts are with you and your family and wiht you best friends family! i lost my nan just before my GCSE exams started as she was battling terminal bile duct cancer. she meant the world and beyond to me and losing her had a huge impact on not only my school life but also my mental health. I felt really down all the time and i i wanted to do was cry and lock myslef away. it was horrible. However, a couple of days ago i got my results and i am so so happy with what i got - it may not have been my best but im going to college.

    I think what im tryign to say is that youre not alone. it is really hard, especially at a young age to come to terms with what is happening! but im sure that your mum and your best friends mum wont want either you or your friend to become distracted by what is going on. they would only want the best for you!

    i have a friedn who's mum has terminal cancer and she is a doctor so its like she will know whats happening to her which must be horrible xxxx

    all of that may be absolutley pointless and no use to you what so ever but im only a message away if you need to talk to someone xxx

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