my godmother is dying

I've been looking after my godmother for three months now. She has terminal kidney cancer with spread to her bones and lungs. I can't bring myself to face the fact that in a few months she's most likely not going to be here, although she seems to have taken a more positive/healthy (?) approach to the situation and takes each day as it comes. I try to do that too, but I can't stop thinking about the future. I can't talk about it with her, because I end up crying or changing the subject.

I just don't know what to do or how to act around her any more. 

 

  • Welcome to the forum megacat although I'm sorry for the reason it has brought you here.

    It's hard not to think about the future knowing that they you may not have much time left with them but do try and stay in the moment if you can and enjoy the time you have with your godmother and make as many happy memories as you can. I think your godmother would like it if you opened up to her about how you are feeling, even if you do start crying, as she may already sense you are finding it difficult at the moment and she will then be able to comfort and support you as you are doing for her. 

    Many of our members have been in a similar situations with their loved ones and hopefully they will be along soon to offer their advice and share their experiences with you.

    Wishing you and your godmother all the best, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator