Hey everyone, I just found this place after doing some google searches. I am in need of some support/advice as my father was given 6-12 months last night. Ill try to keep this short, as there are obviously a lot of details to a story like this, and I dont have all of them myself. I am 26 and he is 61.

He was diagnosed with bladder cancer July 2015, at which point the doctors said it was treateable and could be operated on. He responded to chemo, and had his bladder removed in December. Since then he has been told he was cancer free. However, he was having issues with his kidneys since the operation.

The kidneys havent been functioning well since December. He has had a number of operations placing and removing stents, but I dont believe his life was in immediate danger because of it. Unfortunately he took a sharp nosedive these past two weeks, He hasnt been able to eat, his breathing has been getting shallow and its difficult for him to speak, and he is down to skin and bones. He went to the hostpital 2 days ago and they ran some tests. Last night the oncologist told us that he now has cancer in his lungs, lymph nodes, and liver. Operating is not an option, and with chemo he could live 6-12 months.

The family is in shock, and I think he is in denial. He didnt say much last night, and mentioned the possibility of getting a second opinion, or the tests results being a mistake, which certainly doesnt seem possible. It didnt hit me until I got home and saw pictures of me as a boy with him. I broke down and chugged all the alcohol I could find in the house and began my internet search that has led me here.

This really sucks and I dont know how to begin helping him.