Have 33 year old sister who gots sage 4 breast cancer week ago her kidneys stoped working since then shes got more poorly my dad phoned me told me she is never going to get better she very weak in hospital haveing end of life care. My family don't tell me much at the time being told the news I phoned dad back said don't want to see my sister the now I digested the news I changed my mind.

I am 4 days away from my 35th birthday  I tryed to go visit her this weekend found iut her husband invited lots of his friends to see her.i don't drive and I long way away from her take me 3hours on train to the hospital I don't live local I tryed since may to see her each time I get turned away no one tell me a thing I am her older sister my sister is 33 years old only 18 months between us makes me to cross no one reply to my messages I do sometimes get to talk to me dad but he won't tell me much.could phone hospital ward ask how she is or is that wrong?

I just want to have some time on my own with my sister but feel I just being ignored how do I get my feelings across that I want be with my sister by her bedsied not be 80miles away.