I'm trying to understand where Dad is up to in regard to his cancer. Three weeks ago Dad had his prostate removed via robotic surgery, he had to go back the first week because he was bleeding from his penis not in the urine. We tried not to worry too much as we were told this can happen sometimes. Despite the obvious pain from surgery Dad has been so brave. I know he is mortified that he cannot control his bladder, he's a proud man. Though he doesn't talk about it, we understand and respect his space to come to terms with this. We were told that dad would be returning to hospital for post op checkup on the 2nd August. The hospital called today and his oncologist wants to see my dad on Monday. It looks like the cancer has spread from his prostate it was aggressive. Dad hasn't had any form of treatment before his surgery. Does that mean it can still be treated and cured hopefully . I don't understand all the different terms used what they mean. Thank you xxx
please accept my sincere condolences, I'm so sorry to hear your dad has passed away. I'm glad he was able to die at home as he wanted. How are you, I hope you have good support to help with the bad days that accompany us when we lose a loved one.
Im good. Dad and I had a long talk before his death so everything was preplanned and in place. I lived with Dad so its strange not seeing him sitting in his chair. I know hes there tho. Hes with my mum and thats what he wanted.
Thank you for asking, dads still cancer free thank goodness but he has no control over his bladder,a complication of the surgery to rid him of cancer. Though he is grateful and very relieved to be cancer free incontinence has been an issue for him, he's a proud man and found it very difficult to come to terms with. His doctors have decided it's time to look at the surgical options as it not something that will improve on its own. We are just waiting for his appointment with the urologist. I'm hopeful for a better year for us all, 2016 was unbearable, we lost four family members and you your lovely dad. It has to get better doesn't it.
Tried a kind of cstherter that but it wasn't successful, from what my dad was saying it looks like one of the options is a mechanical internal clip that dad will release God knows how to empty his bladder. We will know more when his appointment comes through.
