Hi Lara, welcome to the forum, but sorry you're here because your Mom is so sick with cancer. It seems like your entire family is in crisis at this point which is not unusual when something like this happens. I was drawn to your post because of your name, Lara. I have a neice with the same name and I've never heard of anyone else with that name before. It is a nice name for sure. Lara, I know your Mom's illness has devastated all of you. It is an awful shock to hear this news about a cherished family member. I'm guessing that your family has not lost an immediate member up to this point and I'm sure it feels like the end of the world right now. It isn't, as bad as all of you feel. You don't say what her medical treatment team is saying about her prognosis. Has your Dad been involved in her care up until this point. Perhaps it might help to know more about the stage and what the future holds. Sometimes it helps to lessen the stress on loved ones if they know more about what to expect. You say that you, your Dad and your sister can't live without your Mom. It probably feels that way right now, but you can, and you will live without her if it comes to that. You will have one another to see you through whatever happens. Your Mom would need to hear that all of you will go on and be there for each other. Is she talking about her illness to any of you? Perhaps her treatment team can help all of you to acess counselling to deal with this crisis. My heart goes out to all of you. I have lost family members and several friends to cancer and it is so hard. The first person in my family to die with cancer was my Dad. I was devastated too. Please know that we can and do survive these losses, as hard as it is. I hope you have your Mom with you for some time yet.

Sending hugs.

Lorraine  

Thankyou so much for getting back to me, not been on over the weekend as iv been busy with my mum. Iv lost grandparents, my nana (my mums mum) died in October 2015 and was 92, I was very very close to her but got comfort in knowing she lived to a good age without any illnesses and had a fantastic life. My mum is and always will be my best friend, it's killing me. She got her biopsie done last week so we are just waiting to here the outcome of it, all we no is its in her uterus and stomach, they say its contained in that area. Myself, my sis, dad n mum are a team and I couldn't cope if that stops, my mum is our core. I'm just praying they can do something for her, I hate seeing her in so much pain and the thought that go through her wee head. I have a 19month baby boy and I'm struggling to deal with him on a daily basis because I'm so emotional, he doesn't deserve to see me so upset either. Thankyou once again for getting back to me. XXXX

Hi Lara, I hope when your Mom gets the results of the biopsy that the news is not as bad as you think. It may be possible to operate on this cancer and hopefully give her more years to live .I hope for her sake and yours this turns out better than it looks right now.You're right about your little boy needing his Mom to be in good shape to care for him. Children pick up on the stress of the people around them, so you don't want to have him getting upset with what's happening. You likely will have the results of the biopsy in the next week or two, so I'll be looking for a post from you at that time and I'm hoping it will be good news. In the meantime, come on here to get support for yourself as you wait.

Take care of yourself and that precious little boy of yours.

Hugs

Lorraine