Help! I'm only 25 and going to lose my dad

My dad has been sick for months but he has been hiding it.I only found out a few days ago that he was so sick.He is home from hospital now but he is sleeping a lot.The nurse has said we are looking at weeks before we will have to say goodbye.This has been a whirlwind of emotion finding out he was sick and then that we don't have very long together.I feel scared and lost I don't want to lose him.Ive been trying to look after him but I'm finding it heart breaking every time I look at him because he is so weak.My mum is looking after him too along with carers.I don't have a great relationship with my mum I'm just terrified.

  • Hi Susan90

    I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, 25 is no age to lose a parent but then I don't think you will ever be ready if I am honest. I am 40 and my Dad has weeks if not days to live, I am heartbroken everytime I look at my Dad too. How do you say goodbye to someone who has been there your whole life and who you love so much?

    I wish you lots of strength. Perhaps this awful time will bring you and your Mum closer? Thinking of everyone of his going through this. Lots of love xx

     

     

  • Thank you for your kind words.I think what makes it all the more worse is we have just lost my nan(my dad's mum) to cancer only 5 weeks ago and I'm an only child.I wish I could do something to help and I just can't believe it all.Its so unfair :( x

  • Oh gosh, to have only just lost your nan too. I really feel for you. I have still not taken in that my Dad is so ill, even though he is fading before my eyes, I am in denial most of the time and can't believe it's happening either. I bought a Father's Day card today     and realised it would be the last I ever buy. Heartbroken doesn't even come close X

     

  • I really feel your pain.I hate that it's Father's Day and my dad is in bed sleeping most of the time and he doesn't seem like my dad.I'm in denial too, I can see him fading fast and he's showing all of the signs,he's sleeping more and losing his appetite and then he seems confused too.Its just a horrible horrible disease.I don't know how Im going to cope in all honesty.I wish you strength to cope with your pain x

  • Susan90 so sorry to hear about Ure dad!! I also am preparing to lose mine and it's so difficult!!