Hello everybody, 

how to start? I try to keep it short but I really hope that I can get some advice from all of you. I met a man online and we got involved. I knew he had soft tissue sarcoma for the past 2.5 years then. 

He is married but they are like friends or housemates, they share not even friends hobbies or a bedroom.

(to explain the rest better this part is essential)

Future was when we fell for each other not really an issue because he was stage 4. But we chatted 24/7 even when he was really in bad shape. He started to talk about how he fantasised our future if he survives it.

With the last big surgery they removed all tumours and he was undetected....first time for 3 years then.

He was so happy but still unsure if it stays, but started divorce and we planned for real....

Then 5 weeks ago he changed....from one minute to the next. I did not know what to do. His sister told me they found again tumours, they did not see them before they thought it was chemo damage on the pancreas.

He told me he don't want to drag me down with him, but he cannot have that anymore what we planned, and  he stopped the divorce because he said it's not smart anymore.

I tried to convince him now for weeks that he should not push me away....but he is so, angry all the time and says I don't understand him. And it's not all about me....etc.

He barely texts me now...only bits and pieces and as soon as I responds he "runs". We had no proper conversation this weeks....I told him we might cannot have what we are planned but plans change all the time. But he says he don't wanna waste my time and I deserve better as seeing him going.

I told him it's my decision and not his, and that I won't back down, but he still pushes me away.

I don't wanna give up on him, but I have no idea how I can win him back over or convince him that the doctors might gave him only 1-2 years but there are enough people who live a lot longer as long as they are happy and positive.

He kind of gave up.....I have no idea anymore what I could do......he was always like "don't be sad try to be happy", but from that is nothing left. 

I hope I get some advice here.....from people who walk in his shoes and maybe can tell me what I should do....to get him back.