My boyfriend was diagnosed with lung cancer 3 weeks ago. His first reaction was to break up with me. Later he told me what was going on and he said he doesn't want me to suffer during the chemotherapy and the treatments. Then I went to see him as we are not living together and now we seem to be ok. He is living with his parents right now as we got a house that still need some work. The thing is his parents doesn't know about the cancer. The only person who knows is me. He doesn't want to talk about the cancer at all. In fact the only thing I know is the doctor told him he can get chemo and see if it works, the doctor also said he has 25% of chances to react positively to the chemo. But I really don't know what that percentage means, or what other options there are.
When we have talked about cancer (2 times) he gets really upset and sad. He is taking this alone and in my opinion that's not good at all. He is sometimes very negative saying he would like to be already dead and I don't feel him positive about the treatment and all that negativism makes me negative. I want to stay positive and make him feel positive and with strength to do whatever it takes. I would like to get more information from him (what the doctors said, what's next, what's gonna happen) to investigate and I also would like to encourage him to get a 2nd opinion and the options he can have and make him feel a little less negative.
I'm scared, he don't want to take his mobile to write or talk, and I don't want to talk about it to not make him uncomfortable the few times we are having contact. I want to help but I don't know how.
