Hi i have gone through lots of chemotherapy bone marrow transplant lots of complications but have come through it was harder for my wife i had medication at all times my wife had to go thorough every thing day after day visiting keeping my two boys positive run the house. not knowing will i come through the cancer i could not tell her i did not know myself that started 2012 November until 2013 September it does not stop their its a long-time in recovery in and out of hospital i do lots of voluntary work with cancer suffers and families. text me if i can be of any help regards Mark
From a personal viewpoint (it was my husband who had incurable cancer) it was quite common for him to distance himself, especially from those closest to him, during the three year journey we all took with his illness. He did not chat much, did not wish to discuss the cancer unless absolutely necessary because he did not cope with the emotional side of his illness. He was aware of how hurtful and frustrating it was for all involved and knew our love and care did not waver through these periods. With the addition of pain relief and other medications this also affected his personality but I knew on the inside he was hurting both physically and mentally and would have done anything I could to help, had he let me.
There is also the time it can take to come to terms (if you ever do) with the diagnosis and individuals can and do react very differently. If the person you are asking about has had a recent change of medication or if you are at all worried about them you can certainly talk with his GP/cancer specialist (if you have their permission to do so) and voice your concerns (I became my husband's spokesperson at latter appointments and with other family and friends so they knew what to expect).
The forum was a great place to share my own fears and he was glad I had somewhere to find support.
