I know this is trivial, but... Hair loss.

hi. My Dad was diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma 6 weeks ago, two weeks before my wedding. He doesn't like talking about it, so I only know the bear minimum. This week his hair started to fall out and it's hit me quite hard. I know how utterly ridiculous it is to be upset over something as daft as hair, but I've never known him without a full head of dark black hair and a beard and moustache. I avoid visiting because it reminds me that he's ill and then hate myself for being so selfish. I basically just wanted to say the stuff out loud that I daren't say to my family. Thanks for giving me somewhere to let everything out.

  • Hi

    your feelings are totally understandable.  How does your dad feel about the hair loss?  Side affects are never easy or nice to cope with and you certainly in the right place to rant.  Most posts I've read here I find so encouraging because everyone seems to find a positive out of the negative with a bit of humour thrown in.  

    Hang in there 

    jb

  • Hi

    It is not at all selfish to be affected by seeing your Dad suffer the side effects of treatment for his cancer. It is so hard for all the family and we all have different ways of dealing with it.  I joined the forum because I was frustrated at how cancer changed my hubby and it is good to be able to offload.  If your Dad knew how you were feeling I am pretty sure he would understand and you have the wonderful memories/photographs from your wedding.  Hope the treatment does what it has to do and his hair should grow back once chemo is over. Wishing you all well.  Jules54

  • Hi I'm new to the site to and I know how scary it is to have someone you love go through this ordeal .Dont beat yourself up for not going to visiting him I'm sure you will go when you get over the shone of it all it just takes a little time to get used to you take cake and hope to talk to you again