Hi,

you poor thing I really feel for you with your mum and dad it's so bloody unfair.  My dad has stage 4 lung cancer as well he was diagnosed in late feb, I drove/drive myself mad with that question "why", why my dad, why is life so unfair and wicked.  There isn't an answer as to why it just happens it seems.  I'm sorry I can't be of much help I just wanted to reply to your message as why seems to be top of my volcabory at the moment. Is your dad planning on having some treatment?

hug sent your way

dawn xx

Hi dawn, my dad has cancer on his lungs and his bones, the doctors and dad decided that it's not worth treating, the cancer is to aggressive and spreading fast. Watching him everyday deteriorate breaks my heart, I'm so sorry too for your dad, hate is such a strong word, but I hate cancer, I hate the fact I'm losing another parent. Even though looking after my dad is stressful I wouldn't have it any other way. Can I say you have helped me, it's good to talk to other people. I find myself bursting into tears randomly. Sending you hugs too.       nicky x 

Bless you Nicky, I'm glad I helped sometimes in a really unfortunate way helps to chat with others in the same boat.  I'm the same I cried from Sunday to Tuesday, my mum and dad live about an hr and a half away I go for 3 or 4 days every week, I'm strong when im there, then a mess as soon as I leave.  I HATE cancer to hun, I hate the way it's took over my dad and that I'm going to have to loose him a lot sooner than I ever imagined he's only 67. I hate that u are loosing another parent and I hate that cancer hurts everyone who's effected by it.

How old was ur mum and your dad now, Im 38 and in some ways haven't started life on terms of getting married ect feel so robbed dad will miss out on things and he won't be there.

I really shocked how quick it comes on and takes over I didn't really imagine it to change someone so quickly it's awful.  Not really that sure how u de the site that much but I just added u as a friend incase u want to private message me anytime for a scream winge or whatever.

lots of big hugs

dawn

x

My mum was 65 when she died, my dad is 69. It would of been mums birthday may the 8th, sounds odd, but I think dad is waiting until then. I'm not sleeping properly, my auntie died 2 months before my mum. It's so not fair, I'm reading everybody's comments, crying while reading them. I'm so angry, yea I know that feeling my parents won't be there to see me get married I'm 45. Xx

Bless it's just way to young, we know we will eventually loose our parents I was always just assuming it would be when we are in our 60's :-(.  May the 8th is my mum and dads anniversary they will be married 45 years I have a bbq planned and have got them a cake not that dads really eating but it's all memories now :-( my dad just turned 67 on April 4th, it's a horrible time this mnth for you with your dad I'll too. 

Try not to get yourself too upset hun, try to look after you too xx