Mum mum is suffering from angioimmunoblastic Tcell lymphoma and has been incredibly ill after chemo session 1. She has spent 32 days being ventilated and in an induced coma in ICU and has been back on a normal ward for almost two weeks now. She is very weak, cannot stand unaided and is generally confined to bed. When she was in the coma, she was fed via feeding tube and actually regained some of the weight she lost leading up to diagnosis when she was so scarily thin. She is allowed to eat food and liquid, but only in a custard consistency and everything has to be either thickened or puréed so she doesn't choke while her throat recovers from being intubated. What is scaring me the most is that she is now refusing to eat at all. The weight that she gained in ICU is now falling off her again and at this rate she will never be strong enough to have session 2 of the chemo. She is stroppy, argumentative, swearing for the first time in her life that I've heard, and I'm terrified that she is now making up things so that she doesn't have to eat. She feels sick. Has a headache. Bad throat. Tummy pains. Anything. Why won't she eat? Why is she being so difficult. She will deteriorate again at this rate and no one seems to be a bit bothered by it. They've put her back on a drip as she's not drinking enough fluids. There are no doctors around after 4pm on a Friday and the consultant and his team are in Monday, weds and Friday's only and of course it's bank holiday now so they won't be in until Wednesday as they cover two hospitals in the county. The doctors over the weekend (3 in whole hospital) understandably have no idea of her or her illness and if she says she feels sick, they just prescribe something. No one is getting to the bottom of what is going on. I feel like a terrible daughter. I am constantly asking what have you drunk today, what have you eaten? Telling her over and over that she must eat to gain her strength. I know she is frustrated and scared, so am I, but I don't know what else to do or where to turn. I've tried to speak t the staff on the ward but they can only do so much andjust give her what the doctors have prescribed. What can I do to encourage her to eat? I am struggling now with the whole situation and don't know where to turn. Please help me. She been in hospital for 3 months in all now and we are getting nowhere and I am rapidly loosing my sanity and my patience with her and everything's me else, which makes me feel even worse.