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has anybody else noticed that when i partner is diognosed with cancer that some friends just disappear , i  know they will prob be scared ect  but id rather someone was there and didnt say anything to me than ppl just avoiding us  , at the  moment i have very limited support and its just me  hubby and 2 kids tho hubbies kids are brill  its mainly just us , feel so alone at the moment and feel a failure as when hes  having bad days  i feel useless because i know theres nothing i  can do i hide it from him  as best i can   , and take 1 day at a time as best we can 

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    I had friends who provided zero help. If someone has been through it themselves it can be too real. If they haven't, it's a reality they don't want to face. 

    Fairweather friends my Mum used to call them. I think people can be very selfish during these times, they just think about their own feelings. 

    Equally you'll get friends who will surprise you. Try and find those and utilise their support as much as possible. 

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