Im 17 years old and my Dad was diagnosed with cancer in the first week of 2013. When i first found out he had lung cancer i was told that is was a small tumor but a slow growing one, i took solace in this and tried to push it to the back of my mind telling my self that it would be years untill he would start even showing symtoms. Around a year ago he started chemo, and then various other trials which prevented the tumor from growing, even shrank it however eventually the cancer became too vicious and treatment stopped working. From christmas to now his health has dramatically deteriorated, basically his whole abdomen has become a tumor and has very little fat left on him and canbarely talk or eat. This is made even harder by the lack of commuincation i am having with my family about this issue. I love each indivual in my family very deeply however together we are very dysfunctional. I know that my dad will die, possibly in the next few weeks but i only know this buy sneaking by the door with conversations to the hospice ect, In the 3 years he has had this illness i have has maybe 3 breif conversations about his illness, and now it is terminal the topic has become even more tender. Even though i am feeling very lost my main heartbreak is the lack of support my dad is getting from the household. My mother is very emotionally unstable and therefore stuggles to look after him, she will straight up tell him she cant cope with him in the house so he stays at his mother house who lives 4 hours away for weeks at a time. She suffers from alcoholism and when drunk becomes very emotionally abusive, and recently her angry has been directed at my dad and his illness, in her mind she is blaming him for the lack of work his is doing around the house and being distant , it is totally bizare that she blames him for something that he is so helpless of. My main concern is that he is going to die feeling unloved and unwanted. I want him to know that i love him and will miss him but i just dont know how, i feel deeply,deeply uncomfortable about this whole situation but i know if i keep acting like nothing is happening i will regret it forever. I would really appreciate some advice from people who have been in a similar position as me, or that of those in the position of my dad, what would you want to hear from your daughter?