Hi Jim,

Having a child that age with terminal cancer has to be just about the worst nightmare of any parent - I know when I lost my wife people said it's the worst thing in the world and I always told hem that I thought losing a child would be worse.

I think you're right to be worried about how losing him will affect your wife and familly, I'm sure it will be devastating especially in the first 6 months but I also know that people survive and in time they will heal.

How old are the rest of the familly and how much do they know?

Have you spoken to McMillan about your financial worries? They have a financial team and there's a special page about self-employment in this situations so while I haven't spoken to them myself in this way I'd think they're fairly clued up and might be able to help.

www.macmillan.org.uk/.../self-employment-and-cancer.html