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19 Years old and caring for my Fiance

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Hello All, 

Seeking someone to talk too, 

My name is Bethany im 19 years old from South Wales.

My Fiance, is currently battling Chondrosarcoma (Bone cancer) in his pubic ramus bone, this has spread to his lungs, he has undergone the strongest form of chemotherepy and after many months we were told by our consultant that they were stopping all treatment due to no improvement on thr lungs. The plan was to have chemothrepy to shrink the tumor and remove the cancer cells on the lungs then be sent to Birmingham to have his leg and half his pelvis amputated!:( However its all changed and got worse:( All they have offered now is Radiotherepy to ease his pain but nothign more can be offered for his lungs. He is only 23 and is extremely scared, depressed and in pain day in and day out:( We live on our own together due to him facing alot of family trouble at home. Its very challenging and hard seeing him suffer:( Recently weve noticed small bumps arising on the top of his forehead going over his skull, he doesnt want to get it checked out as hes scared of the posibilities:( Just in need of some advice or looking for someone going through a similiar situation.:(:love:

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    Hi Bethany

    You are both so young to be going through this. There is not much you can do other than be there for him, do some fun things together, maybe take the opportunity to get married. When he is getting his pain management reviewed mention the bumps the possibilities cant be worse than what the man is going through now. If you can, take a few hours out for yourself each day, go visit your friends, or do something to relax. It will be good for you and give you some energy to help your fiance,  Best to both of you Kim

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     Hi Bethany,

    I'm 20 years old and care for my fiance who is 24 years old. He was diagnosed with Leukeamia in 2012, he has since been told he's in remission after relapsing twice. I know how stressful and upsetting the whole journey is. My partner gets extremely worried about getting anything checked out but in the end he does do it. I understand why your fiance would be worried to get the bumps checked out, maybe you could sit down with him and go over everything that is concerning him about the bumps (sounds obvious but for him to open up may help) also remind him that just because Chemotherapy has stopped for one thing does not mean that a treatment plan wouldnt be put in place for whatever the bumps are.

    If you need anyone to talk too, feel free to add me on here, my username is neversaynever     

    Thinking of you at this very difficult time

    Love D x

     

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