I feel for you.   My partner is also the one who is ill.   I haven't got any answers but will say that it helps me to take one day at a time, sometimes a few hours at a time.   You will get through this and hopefully he will too.

Good morning Nicole,

Having lost ten members of both mine and my wifes family plus having had prostate cancer myself, I do believe it can often be harder for the family of the cancer sufferer. You try your best to give the appearance of coping and trying hard to show a brave face, plus doing your best to support your loved one, does take its toll both physically and emotionally. I often hear it described as being like a rollercoaster ride with all the ups and downs. We are afraid for our loved ones and scared what the future holds. All I can say is, post on her as often as you want for there are some great people on here who will do all they can to help and support others.

Take care, sending best wishes and kind thought your way, Brian.

Hi,

I'm afraid all you can do is take one day at a time, try to do things that have nothing to do with cancer to take your mind off it - even for a few minutes and don't give up hope.

He may change his mind about brain surgery if the radiotherapy doesn't work. My wife had a brain operation a couple of years ago for a non-cancer problem. She was treated like an adult by her surgeon who laid out the pros and cons of different procedures as well as the risk of doing nothing. In her case she was odds on to die if she did nothing and about a 90% chance of survival with one of the options.

Good luck
Dave 

Thankyou everyone... we have had a lovely day today full of laughing and pure silliness. It is so much needed. makes us forget for that short time. :)