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To go or not??

paulajl
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Be grateful for people's views. My dad was told yesterday that his cancer is too advanced to treat, he has they said , 2 months though he is starting chemo next week to try and extend that time by a couple of months.

Devastated doesn't even cover it. Me, my husband and our 6yr old daughter are due to go to Tenerife next Thursday for 2 weeks. I really don't want to go now but my mum has said my dad would be so upset if we didn't go and my daughter is so looking forward to this holiday that I wouldn't know how to explain to her why we can't go now plus I feel she has such an ordeal to face soon (she is very close to y dad) that it would at least be one nice thing for her.

Any thoughts on what we should do???

I can't cancel or change the holiday, have checked that today and I hadn't yet bought holiday insurance but to be honest the money's the least of my worries.

Thanks for any help. 

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    Hi

    This will probably be a difficult decision whatever you decide and I do not think there is a right or wrong answer other than  to do what you feel would give you the best outcome. Just over eight  years ago I was facing the same predicament except that my Dad booked and paid for  us all to go away for Christmas  because he knew he had not got long and wanted everyone to enjoy themselves.  In the end he was too ill to travel so he and my Mum stayed behind whilst they insisted the rest of us went.  I can very honestly say I did not enjoy the holiday but my Dad was so pleased to have done this for us that I put a brave face on it and 'followed his dream'.  He passed away nearly three months later.

    Logically nobody knows what might or might not happen when we go away from home so I hope you find peace with your decision and hope the palliative treatment your Dad has may give you precious time to make memories to add to those already in your heart.  Jules54

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    Thanks Jules and sorry for your loss. X

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