Partner has oesophageal cancer

Hello. My partner was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer last September, we were told that is was too advanced to do anything about it and it had spread to the lymph nodes. The oncologist said he could have about 15 months with treatment. He is coming to the end of chemo treatment, which has really taken it's toll on him, he has been gettting incredibly anxious and sick at the thought of having chemo! He has another 2 weeks left of radiotherapy. He isn't eating much because he's lost his appetite and is retching a lot. It's heartbreaking watching him go through everything and knowing there's not a lot I can do to help him. We are due to marry in May and have 2 children (ages 9 and 7). I can't imagine living without him, he is my rock, my best friend. It's been a tough almost 6 months already and I know it's only going yo get worse, I'm so scared, I don't know what to expect and I don't know if I'm prepared for what's to come.

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  • Hi Hendo.

    I am new on here today and so pleased you have posted this.  My husband was also diagnosed with Oesophageal cancer  in October last hear.  His has also spread to all of his lymph nodes and is in his liver too, with traces on his adreanal gland.  He is having his 6th Chemo tomorrow... (ECX), which has been horrendous, but he hasnt had any radiotherapy.   The Chemo made him unbelievably nauseous, and used to be in bed for up to 10 days with the retching. But because the nausea was so bad, my husband was  prescribed an "expensive" anti sickness tablet which has made a massive difference, and now has very little nausea.  I cant remember what it is called but I will fnd out and let you know.  I also have 2 children, 21 (Yesterday!) and 17 and I have found it draining supporting them and my husband, and kind of neglected myself.  My depression deepened and I had a breakdown 5 weeks ago and have been off work since then.  I agree it is very scary, as we know it is terminal, and he is 52 which feels too young to die.  Your children are youger, and assume your partner is also younger than my husband, which makes things even sadder.  You say you dont know what to expect and I think the unknown is one of the hardest things to deal with.  I feel as though there is no one who understands what we are going through as a family, which is why I was so pleased to see your post.

    Take care you are not alone.  xx

  • Hi Tasbean,How are things with you now ? Any improvements since the chemo stopped ? My Dad had his first lot of chemo ECX this week- but is so nauseous he keeps vomiting up his tablets . Could you find out the name of those anti sickness ones you mentioned on here for me ? I would really appreciate it . Take care - Archie xxx

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  • Hi Tasbean,How are things with you now ? Any improvements since the chemo stopped ? My Dad had his first lot of chemo ECX this week- but is so nauseous he keeps vomiting up his tablets . Could you find out the name of those anti sickness ones you mentioned on here for me ? I would really appreciate it . Take care - Archie xxx

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