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Hello, I'm the wife of a wonderful husband who has terminal cancer. It all started last July and by Christmas his cancer which had started in his Colon then his duodenum and so far has reached his brain, he is so brave, but is reaching the end of his tether, he is actually saying things like, he wants to die now, it breaks my heart. The reason for this is he keeps internally bleeding, so far he has had over 20 blood transfusions. A while ago it was touch and go, his colon ripped, he was in excruciating pain and it took the ambulance four hours to get to us. He pulled through, but why is life so cruel. I'm broken hearted. Thanks for listening.

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    Hi Rose7, So sorry to hear about what your husband has been going through and how heartbreaking it is for you. My partner (soon to be husband) was diagnosed with cancer of the gullet last September and it had spread to lymph nodes in his neck and told he would have 15 months to live with treatment. He quickly started chemo and is currently having radiotherapy, it is really taking its toll on him now. I can totally relate with how heartbreaking it is, it's so hard to watch him suffer. If you ever need to vent, I'm here.

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    Hello Rose / hendo, my wonderful husband was also diagnosed with terminal cancer in August last year. It started off with cancerous polyps in the bowel but quickly spread to his liver and lymph nodes. They gave him 12 months if the chemo worked but so far both courses have failed . They are trying him on a new chemo now but he's only managed to have two sessions as he's been in and out of hospital with various problems. He's been re admitted today, with excruciating stomach pains. I feel so low tonight. I try so hard to be strong for him and our daughter but I'm exhausted with it all. I'm still working but after 18 years of working for the company, I am now at risk of redundancy. I'm having to apply for different jobs within the company . The pressure of it all is getting too much. My husband is only 54 and watching him get weaker each day is destroying me. I just wish there was something to look forward too but the future looks so bleak. 

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    Hi, my husband is also terminally ill. He was diagnosed with cancer in March 2015 and treatment started in the April. Although he has had different treatments, there is nothing further that can be done. We found out before Christmas that it has spread to his brain and he has been in and out of hospital several times over the last couple of months. He is totally fed up and keeps saying he wants to die. It is really frustrating as I realise there is very little I can do to help. I do my best not to get upset in front of him as I don't want him to see me upset. People say I am brave but it is a front I need to use to cope with how horrendous this all is. I do occasionally have a meltdown, but it is my way of coping. 

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    Hi Missydawn, I am sorry to hear how difficult it is for you at the moment. Especially with having to deal with issues at work. I do hope your husband has some relief from his pain. It is difficult to be strong and I try my best, not to show my husband and family members how upset I am, as I know I am losing him. We have been together for almost 28 years and married for 27 in July this year. I don't know if he will make it this far. My husband started with lung cancer, which had spread to his lymph nodes in his neck and now in his brain. He does spend a lot of time sleeping and has been in and out of hospital. My company has let me reduce my hours at work and have been fantastic. I know that soon I will have to think about taking leave as he will be unable to be by himself and I know it won't be very long. 

     

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