Myeloma. Mucas cancer 2 mum's

Hi

Unfortunately my 80yr old has myeloma and currently taking chemotherapy tabs once a week. Also attends hosp one a month for a drop. Been in hospital and now nursing home some Oct. She been very poorly with pneumonia and various infections. We have decided as a family now to bring her back home with dad. Daily help and family we hoping she will be happier.

My mother in law also battling cancer.  Was diagnosed with bowel cancer two and half yrs.  Has developed tumour on stump which produces mucous. She in a lot of pain and on morphine etc 

Me......I'm struggling these two women are so brave and such an inspiration and I'm a mess.

It's so hard and sad some days it's worse than others im run down covered in a rash mouth ulcers one cold after another and so tired......mainly guilty as I'm the one moaning

  • Hi Seansue

    Welcome to Cancer Chat.

    It sounds as though you have a lot on your plate at the moment caring for your mum and mother in law.

    Do you have anyone coming in to help you look after your loved ones or is it all down to you, I wonder?

    Please come here to chat anytime you feel it will help to share your thoughts about the sadness and exhaustion you are feeling.

    If you have any questions you think our nurses could answer, please call our helpline. The freephone number is: 0808 800 4040 from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

    Best wishes

    Jane

     

  • Thanx Jayne

    I live 2 hours away from my mum's and only get to see them at weekends. I don't drive so have to wait fir hubby ir daughter to take me. My sister doing most of the hard work sortind things for dad. Mum had to go into nursing home at xmas which we have all found vety difficult. In process at the moment of setting up homcare etc as we bringing mum home after Easter.  

    A lot of the pain I feel is I actually want to go home and care for my mum's  but I can't so guilt kicks in