You will be strong enough, and remember that emotions are not bad, the agitation can be helped with medication, which the team looking after your dad will be able to assess. 

Hi there. I am not caring for anyone but I have terminal ovarian cancer so can look at things from a patient's perspective. First, has your father got calming tablets from his doctor. I take olanzapene and lorazepam every day and they keep me calm and I find that I stop thinking of cancer. So, meds are essential. Second, has your father something he can get lost in. I find reading marvellous as I enter another world and forget about me. If novels are too much for your father, what about a newspaper or magazine of his interests. Whatever, try and get your father to do or listen or watch something to give him some respite. If all he does is sit and think he will only get worse. If he takes tranquilizers, he will find it easier to do things. Third, your father can get support from Marie Curie, your local hospice or MacMillan. Members of these organizations can come to your home and talk to your father. These outfits can also help by putting your father in touch with his local priest who should be able to give real comfort and help your father to be less fearful. Fourth is where you come in. You can arrange all the things that I have suggested such as making an appointment with his g p to get him on the best relaxation meds. It is important that your father knows you love him but the best thing is to be normal around him. If you display worry and fear that will affect your father in a negative way. Just be practical and carry on as you used to do. You being as cheery as you can be is good. Try to make life as normal as possible for your father. Can you invite his friends in to see him. Friends are good. I need them. Again chatting is helpful as you talk about things other than cancer. You can also remind dad that there is another place where we will all be going. Lots of people have gone on so it can't be frightening. It will be a jolly good place. Let's face it, no one has come back ! ! I hope this helps. I am sure others will have lots of ideas. The things above are things that help me. Oh, one final point. Ensure your father has nothing to worry about. For example, I have three dogs and a cat. My heart breaks sometimes when I think I will be leaving them. They love mum and they will look for me and I won't be there for them. My sister has assured me that she will look after them even though she is not a dog person. However, I trust her and that puts my mind at rest. So if your father has any issues help him resolve them. I hope this is helpful my dear and the very best of luck that things are as good as they can get.

Flipper x x x x