finding it difficult to accept dad has lung cancer

 

Hi

My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer March last year. He has had chemotherapy followed by radiotherapy.

As soon as his radiotherapy finished he was having difficult breathing and excessive coughing keeping him awake at night. He was told he had fluid on the lungs which was subsequently drained. This returned a week later and is currently being drained as i write. I went to see him yesterday and it was really difficult to see him knowing his cancer is terminal and he will not be around long. how much time he has i dont know. I am not close to rest of siblings to extent we do not talk and they make it hard for me when i visit him as i can not get as much time as i would like. there is so much i need to talk tio him about. yesterday i went outside visiting hours and was upset at seeing him in discomfort and asking why did it have to happen to him. I had no answer for him. On my leaving he always pats my shoulder but on this ocassion i asked him for a hug which he duly obliged. He held me tight and it bought so much emotions in me that on drive home and since i have been tearful and so very upset. I just needed to chat to other people who have been affected by lung cancer in particular but at same time happy to chat and get adbvise from anyone.

 

 

 

 

  • Hi there, I'm really sorry to hear your dad has lung cancer. It's truly heartbreaking having to live knowing you're losing a parent to this horrible disease...why are your siblings making things extra hard for you? It's a time to come together and support each other, at least for your dads benefit. It must be so hard hearing your dad ask why him? I lost my dad to lung cancer a few months back. Life is so cruel. He was a fantastic dad, best friend and also my neighbour. I've never felt pain like it knowing that he wouldn't be around for long and then when he'd gone. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Look after yourself and dad x