Hi Geraldine,

So sorry to hear about Alans' traumas and it is obvious you are supporting him all you can, just be aware you can only support him if you are well. Look after yourself and remember you have lots of friends here who want to help. You will feel helpless, you are not a doctor, and in my own case I would have to have been a miracle worker to have achieved  what we wanted. 

I hope the suit fitting goes well. 

Keep smiling 

Deggsy 

Thank you Graham & Deggsy. The suit fitting went well although Alan was very tired. Can I just ask a question, that is.... If the tumours in the bowel are bleeding, does that mean time is running out? I spoke to the Macmillan nurse earlier and all she said was they can give him radiotherapy to help with the symptoms. I did not ask any thing because I felt that she might think I was thick or something.

Goodness me you don't want to worry about that - well not unless you're an oncologist yourself ! How would you possibly know something like that?

Ask all the questions you need to - it's their job to answer you - but why not call the nurses here and ask them?

see here:

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../welcome-to-ask-the-nurses

Thank you Graham

Hi germic sorry to hear about your husbands situation. It is very sad and very hard on you. With regard to feeling guilty I feel very guilty following my husbands death in January bye was 69. I had spent  the previous year going on about getting to 70 being my goal. I had breast cancer three years ago so was talking about me. I worry now that I tempted fate only my poor husband died. He died after three weeks in hospital following a short illness. Regards. 

Oh Wilan, how sad to hear about your husband. I will admit it can somedays be very hard as he complains and gets shirty about nothing. But I have now learnt to bite my lip and walk away to find something else to do, you should see under my kitchen sink, its spotless lol xx