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My dads just been diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer

LindseyL
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HI Everyone

So as the title says my dad's just been diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer and i am at a point where i just dont know what to do or what to expect.

They had the prostate out but it has spread to his lymphatic system, it is very aggressive and they didnt like to say but they lead us to believe that he has a year or two if he's lucky. (what's lucky in this situation?!)

So obviously we are trying to be as positive as possible and planning to do as much as he can before it gets worse but how long do we have!?

How will he get worse, will he be able to travel, will he be in pain? i just dont know what to expect.

We are doing the Camino way in March if he is still up to it and my god do i hope he is.

I cannot belive my dad is going to die, it hasn't quite sunk in yet and i am scared of when it does.

If anyone has any experience that they could share with me i would appreciate it.

Thank you in advance.

Kindest regards

Lindsey

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    Hi Lindsey,

    I am so sorry to read about your dad. At the tail end of last year, I lost my father who lived in Canada and my brother in law who lived in this country (England) I would just like to say the time they have estmated for your dad is only an estimate and could go either way. Are they giving any treatment to your dad?

    Both of my relatives got weaker and weaker until at the last they were confined to their beds and eventually ended up in hospices. With modern drugs, he should be pain free but it cant be garanteed.

    I consider myself very lucky for I was diagnosed with prostate cancer over six years ago but because my wife made me go to the doctors mine was caught in time and I have made a good recovery luckily.

    Take care and make as many happy memories as you can bearing in mind the situation. Sending kind thoughts and best wishes to you and your dad, Brian.

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    My dad is refusing treatment as he wants what ever time he has left to be filled with memories rather than memories of the hospital, he wants to make the best of any time he has left (which i can understand).

    I just would like to make palns with him but i have no idea how much time i have left!

    I just cant quite believe that he is going to die, i just wish i knew what to expect x

    Thanks for your kind words Brian x

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    My dad is refusing treatment as he wants what ever time he has left to be filled with memories rather than memories of the hospital, he wants to make the best of any time he has left (which i can understand).

    I just would like to make palns with him but i have no idea how much time i have left!

    I just cant quite believe that he is going to die, i just wish i knew what to expect x

    Thanks for your kind words Brian x

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