All, first of all I want to commend you all for the courage and strength you have all shown and the huge support you have given everyone. I guess I am at a loss, I have just found out my father has been diagnosed with bladder cancer, it is in a rare form that won't respond to chemo, and the option is major surgery or let things take its course and eventually loose the battle.I do not believe he is physically strong enough to withstand surgery. Over the past few weeks I have watched a strong man fade to a shadow of his former self. The weight has fallen off and know he is struggling but will never admit this. I understand he has a whirl wind of emotions and thoughts going through his head. My mum seems to be putting on a brave face. I don't know how I am expected to feel or what to do,.