I am so sorry to hear about your husband - my sister has incurable myeloma cancer and it has been heartbreaking. I have an 8 year old son and sometimes it is very tough to cope with your own feelings, support your loved one and try to be a good enough parent. Take care and big hugs x

Hi, I do not have young children any more but I do know a little about what you are going through. My husband passed away 3 months ago at 62. He was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer a year ago. He managed to do 4 rounds of chemo but had to stop because it was a trial of 5 different drugs and it was extremely hard on his body. From my own experience I found the best support was just being with him when I possibly could. Whether we just sat and looked at each other or talked about anything and everything under the sun. From the cancer, to our thoughts, dreams and fears. I worked full time so when I was not working I was with him. In the end there was absolutely nothing left unsaid for either one of us.

Please remember to take care of yourself along the way and don't hesitate to come back.

Cindy

I am not surprised your emotions are all over the place - you must feel totally lost.  Your husband is so young, too, but you know they can do amazing things today and you must be positive and believe the best.  Chemo does sometimes seem to have terribly depressing effects on some patients. I know it must be very difficult for you but you need to support each other in these difficult times.  Please come and chat to us, anytime, it really does help. x

Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer in September (he is 33). He has just finish 6 weeks of radiotherapy and chemotherapy and has the big op in January.

We also have young children so I understand totally how hard it is to juggle your emotions and keep everything going. My world is also upside down :-(

Huge hugs xx

Hi,

It sounds like you're supporting him in the best way possible by looking after your children and keeping everything ticking over, despite your life being in turmoil.

Hang in there. However hard he may be finding the chemo, knowing that your children are being well cared for will help him cope - one less thing for him to worry about. Keep him up to date with all the news from home, however trivial it may seem in comparison to what he is going through.  

Try to remember to look after yourself, eat well and get as much sleep as you can. 

So many of us have been down similar paths and managed to somehow come out of the other side more or less intact. Being positive can be the hardest thing, but it does help.

Best wishes
Dave