Hi,
I cant believe i find myself on this forum.
My mother was diagnosed with breat cancer 11 years ago when she was 38 year old. At this time i was a teenager and although i understood what was happening to a certain degree i knew my mother is one of the strongest people in the world and i believed she would make it through.
Luckily at the time 6 years ago we were givin the marvelous news that the chemo had worked and she was all clear.
Life went on as normal and mum as usual is still the strongest person i know.
5 weeks ago after pushing her to go to the hospital as she was in excrutiating pain in her back she was diagnosed with secondary cancer in the bones.
For 3 weeks the entire family where absolutely devastated as you can imagine.
Mum had an appointment 2 weeks ago and was told her CT Scan showed no signs of spread and was contained too one area. This was obviously great news but still knowing there is no cure kills me inside everytme i think about it.
Over the last couple of weeks ive tried everything to make her comfortable but as mothers do shes always fine and never needs help and wants to do things for herself.
The last few nights however the strongest woman in my life has been in so much pain. After reading up about various cases and different sites i have forced her to make a diary to try and get this pain controlled, which she has complied and been writing how she feels.
I just feel theres no one to talk too. My father is in ruins and my wife tries her hardest to help but its so hard to explain how i feel. My brother and sister seem to feel the same but i think we are all scared to express how we truly feel.
For me watching my mother in that much pain tonight has really hit home and made me feel sick inside.
I find myself googling stupid things like "how long do i have to live?" etc which lead me to here.
Does anybody have any advice on how i can help ease this situation for my mother?
Thanks Guys