I am someone who has been caring for someone with cancer for 10 years and have learned that it is two of us battling this desease not just one. How to cope? Accept it for what it is and take each day as it comes ....sometimes each part of day and eventually each minute. Live for the present. Don`t plan anything, just enjoy each moment given to you. Once your mind is set in this way it is a little easier. Hard yes but not impossible.
The hardest thing I find is watching someone you love and care for be in pain and you feel you can`t do anything about it. But you can. Make sure you talk to the oncologist and MacMillian nurses about pain control so your loved one is free of pain. Don`t give up hope. You can still have happy memories made each and every day that you are together. Be strong for yourself and your loved one. God bless.
Thank you so much for your reply. It has been a very hard day. Having to tell my children (on their 20 and 30) that this time Dad is not gona make it. And there is no possibility of a miracle, was the hardest thing. We are still online because non of US can sleep. He is overwhelmed with the kids reactions. I suddenly feel so tired. So demotivated. Its been the hardest 8 years of our lives but we done it, together. But this time.....no. And its hard to face it. The right words come out of our months but its like a bad dream.
Thank you so much for your words. We will try to focus on your advice.
