Dad has stage 4 cancer.

 My dad was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago, it was a tumor in his kidney. A few weeks later it was removed and he spent a few days in the hospital. I thought it was over. But it isn't. A few weeks ago my dad told me that the cancer spread to his lungs. There was/is patches of the stupid disease on both lungs so surgery is not an option. He has started taking chemotherapy pills. My mom has just told me that he may not work ever again and that he may have to take those pills for the rest of his life. I'm only 14. I can't deal with the thought of losing my father. my parents are divorced and I live with my mom so I don't get to see him much. The chemo is making him feel sick, and I saw something on the internet that said that there iis an 8% survival rate. Wow. Thats such a low number. I can't talk to my friends. It gets awkward and they don't know what to say. I feel bad just mentioning it to them. Like I said above my parents are divorced so my mom doesn't really care too much. Nobody seems to understand what it feels like to have somebody you love be so sick when you are so young. He has an appointment with his docter in a few months that I'm going to go with him to. He said that there will be somebody there to "explain it all to me.". I'm so scared that the person will tell me that he is going to die. I don't know how much more bad news I can take.

  • Hi Hb,

    I am so sorry to read about your dad. I would just mention about reading things on the internet. The only sites I trust are, Cancer Research, Macmillan for they keep the information up to date. I know how hard it is when one of your parents have cancer for I have lost both my mother a few years ago and now just a few days ago my father. You are so young and it must be so difficult not having anyone to talk to. One other thing to remember is survival rates are improving all the time. There are some wonderful people on here who I feel sure will also reply to you.

    Please take care, sending best wishes and kind thoughts your way, Brian