Double dose of bad news

Hi everyone,

In the past few days I have had two lots of bad news.

On Sunday my sister phoned me from Canada regarding my 93 year old dad who is in a hospice in Calgary. His prostate cancer has returned after many years and is now in his bones. The hospice has informed the family, they think he has only day left. I am not so sure as over the past 3 to 4 years he has proved the medics wrong so many times. He has shown so much grit and determination, I am so proud to be his son.  I just know he will only go when he is ready to go. Allthough we only got to meet face to face for a month 23 years ago, while my brothers and sisters out there have known him a lifetime, I feel very close to him and its hard being so far from him. But as Mrs B has a lot of health problems, I can not go out there to support him and my Canadian family as I feel I would like to do.

Then on Moday my sister in law phoned with bad news about my brother in law. He has gone downhill very rapidly in the past few days.He is not eating at all and the hospice he is in has told her they think it wont be long before he loses his fight with the prostate cancer which has spread very rapidly to his throat. Niether she or Mrs B are taking it very well.

Last night me and Mrs B counted  up the family members we have lost to this evil called cancer and it was eight people allready. As you can appreciate, we are on edge everytime the phone rings now. I pity any salesperson who cold calls us at the  moment. It just make me more determined to do what little I can to help others, Brian

  • So sorry to hear this news Brian. My thoughts are with you and Mrs B xxx

  • Dear Brian, I am so sorry to hear your sad news, both of your friend and also your brother in law, with news of your Dad still to come at some point. What a truly horrible time you and Mrs.B are going through. Thinking of you and sending lots of virtual hugs to you both. Sue x

  • Hello Brian,

    On behalf of everyone at Cancer Chat, I just wanted to say how sorry we are to hear that your brother in law and your friend have recently passed away.

    We are also thinking of you during this difficult time and as you are waiting to hear some news from your dad in Canada. Our thoughts are with you and Mrs B at the moment.

    Lucie

  • My thoughts are with you both and whilst grieving is a very personal emotion I know you and Mrs B will be supporting each other and your sister in law at this time of loss.   When the time is right the troubled memories do fade and the wonderful times stored within your heart will, I hope, carry you forward.

    It cannot be at all easy waiting for news from Canada. Take good care of yourselves.Jules xx

  • Hi everyone,

    Thanks you so much Max, Lucie, Sue and Jules for your kind thoughts. Mrs B feels a little easier now she knows her brother is no longer in any pain. I am having to keep a close eye on her for when she get stressed, she can often end up having a diabetic turn. This has happened so many times in the past but at least I know the signs to look for.

    Thanks again everyone, Brian

  • Caring for each other is what it's all about.  Hope Mrs B can keep calm enough to avoid any repeat problems with her diabetes. It can be quite a fine line to keep those levels steady but think you both have plenty of commonsense in realising what to look for.  All the very best to you both. Jules xx