Double dose of bad news

Hi everyone,

In the past few days I have had two lots of bad news.

On Sunday my sister phoned me from Canada regarding my 93 year old dad who is in a hospice in Calgary. His prostate cancer has returned after many years and is now in his bones. The hospice has informed the family, they think he has only day left. I am not so sure as over the past 3 to 4 years he has proved the medics wrong so many times. He has shown so much grit and determination, I am so proud to be his son.  I just know he will only go when he is ready to go. Allthough we only got to meet face to face for a month 23 years ago, while my brothers and sisters out there have known him a lifetime, I feel very close to him and its hard being so far from him. But as Mrs B has a lot of health problems, I can not go out there to support him and my Canadian family as I feel I would like to do.

Then on Moday my sister in law phoned with bad news about my brother in law. He has gone downhill very rapidly in the past few days.He is not eating at all and the hospice he is in has told her they think it wont be long before he loses his fight with the prostate cancer which has spread very rapidly to his throat. Niether she or Mrs B are taking it very well.

Last night me and Mrs B counted  up the family members we have lost to this evil called cancer and it was eight people allready. As you can appreciate, we are on edge everytime the phone rings now. I pity any salesperson who cold calls us at the  moment. It just make me more determined to do what little I can to help others, Brian

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  • Hi Brian, I'm so sorry to read of the bad news happening with your family right now. I couldn't help thinking that prostrate cancer doesn't run in your family, it gallops! (I do realize that your brother-in-law is not a blood relative however.) Given the fact that Mrs. B is having health challenges right now certainly makes it difficult for you to be with your Dad and family as of course, your first responsibility is with your wife. Its' at these times that we feel torn isn't it. Having dealt with so much cancer in my own family though, I can relate. If we dwelt on it all the time, it would make us a little crazy, but deal with it we must. I hope things level out for you soon and please don't agonize over your not being able to be with your Dad and family right now. I'm sure they understand that you're there in spirit, if not in person.

    Take care my friend and know that others understand how difficult this is for you.

    Lorraine  

  • Thanks Lorriane and Jules,

    Your kind words mean a lot to me and Mrs B. She is dreading the phone ringing as am I. We have just had a phone call from sister in law to say the doctors dont think he will make the weekend as the cancer in his throat is so agressive. Just have to hope he doesnt suffer.

    Thanks again, Brian.

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  • Thanks Lorriane and Jules,

    Your kind words mean a lot to me and Mrs B. She is dreading the phone ringing as am I. We have just had a phone call from sister in law to say the doctors dont think he will make the weekend as the cancer in his throat is so agressive. Just have to hope he doesnt suffer.

    Thanks again, Brian.

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