I want to be prepared.

Hello everyone.

So my nan recently got diagnosed with cancer in her left breast and lung, and at the base of her skull by her spinal chord.

From what i can gather, it started in her breast and spread from there. Now, the research that i have done tells me that this is Metastasis (although that hasnt been confirmed).

What i am hoping to get from you is a prognosis and, yes i suppose, the time frame that my nan has. Yes i know it isnt something i should want to know but i want to prepare myself.

My nans genral health condition is that she is an overweight, ex-smoker, she has bad arthritis so she cant move around easily so no exersize and her diet isnt great.

I know these things will factor into it. Unfortunately i dont know how far along my nans cancer is as she is waiting for another oncology appointment.

One thing we have been told by the hospital though, is that my nan wont be recieving any treatments such as hormone, chemo or radio therapy as it either wont work or it will just make things worse, so they plan to have her moved into a nursing home by the end of the week

So i want to know what sort of prognosis she is likely to have when she will recieve no treatment, and also if there is anything that me or the rest of the family can do to help her??

Anything you can tell me will be appreciated, thank you x

  • hi Campbell

    I know its not what you want to hear, but no one can tell you how long your nan has to live, even the oncologist who has all the facts can only give you a rough idea, and they are often way out. The best thing you can do is to enjoy your nans company and show her lots of love. Kim

  • Hi,

    I'm afraid Kim is right, you are unlikely to get any specific timescales from the medics as they simply don't know. Every case is different because every case of cancer is as subtly different as each human is from another.

    One useful tip I was given by a friend who is a doctor is, if you think a doctor is being evasive, to phrase the question along the lines of "would you be surprised if X will see Christmas" (or any other key date such as a birthday or anniversary). Doctors are only human too and they really don't want to raise false hope or to paint too gloomy a picture. 

     

    Good luck
    Dave 

  • Hi

    There really is no definite way of knowing how long someone may have, with or without treatment. The oncologist who looked after my husband during his illness gave us the best advice she could (he had palliative care for terminal cancer for nearly three years) in that he (and we) should cherish every day, say all that we wanted to say as and when we felt like it . As your nan is due to have a further oncology appointment you may have a little more information to process to help you understand her illness. Wishing you all the very best. Jules54