Pancreatic cancer

My husband has pancreatic cancer. He was due to get the Whipple operation this week however another scan revealed that it has spread to his liver. The doctors said there is nothing more they can do for him and his prognosis isn't looking good. He may be able to get some chemo to help relieve his symptoms but we need to decide if it's worth going through. He had no symptoms apart from a sore back which got worse and made him go to the doctor. We are all devastated. My husband is just 51 and we have a teenage family. I feel robbed that we didn't even have the chance to fight this. At the moment we are all still in shock and I can't stop crying and am devastated for my husband and children. How long does the crying last? I'm normally the strong one in the family but have no strength at all. We were all optimistic because he was getting the operation to remove the tumour and now our lives have been ripped apart . 

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  • Hi, I lost my husband August 29, 2015 to Pancreatic Cancer. He was diagnosed August 2014 and had the Whipple Surgery September 25, 2014. He was 62 and otherwise fairly healthy. I have not stopped crying.

    It is so difficult to express but I feel for you and your family and the tears are once again streaming down my

    face. Please know that you are in my thoughts.

  • Hi chitch. I am sorry to hear about your husband. This cancer is just awful and I hated seeing my husband in so much pain all the time. When we thought my husband was going to get the operation we had a bit of hope although deep down I knew if he had this operation there was still a low percentage of surviving a year. How are you managing to cope? My husband died 3 weeks ago and I still feel numb about it and doesn't feel real. I cared for him the last 4 months and find it hard to get the bad bits out of my mind.  Thanks 

  • Hi Linda, I found for the first month my only memories were of seeing my husband so frail from the cancer. I thought that I would never be able to remember him prior to becoming ill. And then I started remembering more of better times and now occasionally I see him as he was when he was ill. I find that I need to take it one day at a time. If I look to far ahead it becomes overwhelming.

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  • Hi Linda, I found for the first month my only memories were of seeing my husband so frail from the cancer. I thought that I would never be able to remember him prior to becoming ill. And then I started remembering more of better times and now occasionally I see him as he was when he was ill. I find that I need to take it one day at a time. If I look to far ahead it becomes overwhelming.

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