Hi Pierreb56

Sorry about your dad's diagnosis.

You sound like a very caring son to be so worried about your mum at this distressing time for you all.

I hope you get a response from someone who has been in a similar situation and can advise you.

Do let us know how your dad's surgery goes.

Remember too that our nurses can be contacted on freephone: 0808 800 4040 from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm, if you feel it would help to talk to them.

Best wishes

Jane 

Hello,

My name is Janna and I am 23 years old. My mum was 52 when she passed away in July.  

Sorry to hear about you Dad's diagnosis. You sound like a lovely son to be worrying about your Mum. This forum will definitely help you through this difficult time.

Hopefully sharing my story will help you. 

My Mum was diagnosed with oesophageal junction cancer on 1st May and passed away 14th July. It would have been my Mum and Dad's  30 year anniversary next year. When my mum was diagnosed she did nothing but worry about my Dad. Mum made all the important decisions, everyone was a bit concerned how my Dad was going to cope. 

Even when the nurse told my mum she was incurable and inoperable, I refused to accept it. I was so positive for her. The whole time I was telling her she was going to get through it. Which to be honest, I think did help her. Being that positive helped everyone, including my Dad. Obviously for me it was devastating when I realised she wasn't going to get through it. So to be honest I think a bit of positivity can't hurt anyone. 

My Dad has adapted very well. Better than any of us thought he would have. My Dad is lucky to have such a lovely family around him. 

Try not to worry about your Mum. Worry solves nothing, just be as supportive as you can. Make sure you help her as much as you can. She will be fine. 

If my Dad can do it, your Mum can. 

All the best, stay strong.

Janna